To my dearest game players,
What are the game rules in your life? I mean, is there really a routine to follow? I was following ms cwang's blog entry about some typical women planning their lives.There are people around my life that is in the game, planning to buy a house, get marry and child planning. When I was small I see my parents doing all the routine stuff at the right moment, which secretly hide the sequence in my mind. It is typical to want to follow the good steps. Maybe this is only because I have a healthy family history. But then again, why is the so-called good steps the best steps to follow?
To a certain extend I think I am worrying about my own game plan. Being in post-secondary school for 7 years now I am definitely behind -- way behind rather. Talking to high school friends makes me blush. The group of guys have been working and getting big pay cheques in their profession. They have girlfriends, saving up for down payments while still have extras to upgrade their cars. That is very typical. The more you hang around with them the more behind I felt. This should be the best time in our lives for a long while. While I ponder about the question there are more stories to tell you what the plan SHOULD be like, your best friend is choosing her engagement ring and your other friend's baby is already a year old. Am I doing something wrong or not?
On the other hand I have another group of girl friends who the majority are still in school. They just seem to not have enough books in front of them. Among the first few questions everytime we met was "You in school or working already?" Hanging out with this group makes me feel normal again. I am ok, I am not alone, I am not behind!
Every little girl has a dream game plan that has been set out by the norm and by her parents, find a man, get marry in her 20s and finish giving birth by the age of 36 -- at least this is what my mom, my mom's siblings, as well as their friends' story. There seems to be an urgency to follow the plan in order to be with the norm. But why should I be with the norm?
This all maybe caused by a woman's physical limitations of giving birth. If I don't plan to have kids then there is no need to follow the guideline right?
from a game player trying to quit the game
1 Comments:
I don't think I was ever in the game, but whatever. As long as you're happy with what you've achieved (education, job, relationships, material stuff...etc.) then it really shouldn't matter. Society makes it hard to not be involved or not want to be involved in the 'game' but there is a grey area that I think a lot of us are in that is very important and exciting!
I know it's hard not to think about it when the majority of the population is but innovators create innovative lifestyles, right?!
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